First off let me give you guys some background on the situation... I am 25 and my boyfriend will be 35 in September. We have been dating on and off a little over 2 years. We currently live together in the same city my parents live in and have been living together for 1 year, 4 months. When I moved out of my parents house, it was the first time I have ever moved away and lived without my parents for a long period of time. (I stayed with other family members for 1 month in 2005, after Hurricane Katrina.) I am very close to my parents. My mom and I have a much better, healthier relationship now that we don't live together. I am the only girl. My dad and I are extremely close and he still looks at me as his baby girl. I see my parents(mostly my dad) at least twice a week and email/talk/text them multiple times on most days. My parents aren't too keen on my boyfriend, which is understandable. We haven't had the most stable relationship, especially when we first dating. At the time, my boyfriend was going through some personal issues and wasn't sure what he wanted, so we broke-up a lot. We love each other and we've both changed in the last year or so, and therefore the relationship has changed in a positive way. We haven't been this happy ever in our relationship! We have talked about marriage and kids. As soon as we're able to save for an engagement ring, that's when we will buy it. Within the next year. Getting back to my question... After thinking about it over the past few days, we've decided to make the move to Baton Rouge, Louisiana, where my boyfriend's business is. It's going to come as a complete shock to my family, as it was a shock to me. It wasn't something we were planning on doing until 2014 and I told my family we would eventually move. For the sanity of my boyfriend (he hates his job; he's stressed out; he's not sleeping at night; he's waking up in the middle of the night and not being able to fall asleep until 4-6 a.m.), we are making the move now. We are both quitting our jobs here in Slidell and we will be working for his company in Baton Rouge. We will both be making more money than we currently make, which will help with the engagement ring. How do you suppose I tell my parents and older brother that we are moving from Slidell to Baton Rouge, Louisiana in exactly 2 weeks from today? Yes, I know I'm 25 and I can do what I want, but I want my family to know about us moving. I want them to try to understand why I'm doing this and support me and this decision. And Please no stupid answers!
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Your situation seems complex. Perhaps you & your boyfriend should get some "pre-marriage" counseling. Counseling will help you both figure out where your relationship is heading. Kind of find out if you are on the same page as him. ALL of my siblings (except for me) decided to move in with their girlfriends/ boyfriends before marriage. 2 of my siblings are still married. 2 of my siblings are separated & divorced. My brother who is divorced had a psychological "break down" that ended his marriage the 1st year he was married. That's why I am saying if your boyfriend had some personal issues. Something "new" in his life may cause him some set backs. ---------- As for your parents situation. I think if they are use to you now living with him. The moving part should be a breeze. My sister moved an hour away from us recently. We go on SKYPE or Web Camera to keep in touch. Just an idea for you & your parents.
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